Besides telling the folks, that I’ve previously mentioned HERE, I decided to tell two of my other girlfriends as well.  The two that I’ve most recently told are actually the two that I spend the most time with as we are physically closer distance wise.  I see them usually once or twice a week, and while I knew they’d be supportive, I just wasn’t ready to tell them yet, I’m not entirely sure why.  One of them was even one of my bridesmaids.

We had a girls wine dinner last week, and that is when I told these two additional friends.  It was getting harder and harder to keep the truth from them.  One of them is a teacher, so she is off for the summer.  There was a chance that my endoscopy was going to be when the hubs was out of town for work, so I checked with her to see when she was available.  She’s been through numerous procedures, including at least one endoscopy (with the same doctor who is doing mine, what are the odds?) and is also an anatomy and biology teacher, so she started asking lots of questions.  The three of us were also making our usual plans for the summer and it was getting harder and harder to explain why there was basically going to be an entire month where I wasn’t going to be able to do something.  In August between a two week liquid diet and at least two weeks of post op liquids, I have no plans to make plans!

I was SO glad that I told them.  They were both incredibly supportive and both figured that there was more going on than what I was telling them.  They asked lots of questions and both offered to help me out in anyway during recovery.  They know that this is something I want to keep fairly private, so they agreed to not talk to any of our other mutual friends about it.

While my first two girlfriends that I told were both very supportive, once has back away a bit and doesn’t ever mention my surgery.  She’s become a bit distant.  She lives about two hours away, and is one of my closest friends.  I don’t know if she’s been distant because of my choice to have surgery or for other reasons, but I’m entirely scared it’s because of surgery.  She had an immediate family member pass away due to complications from bariatric surgery about 8 years ago or so.  I talked to her about this, and she said she understood those complications were rare, and was initially supportive.  Now I’m beginning to wonder if that isn’t going to be the case long term.  The second friend, asks questions whenever she has them and also asks for updates about where I am in the process, I love that, it reminds me that she wants to know that I’m doing OK and is checking in.

Tomorrow is my endoscopy; One of the procedures that the surgeons office requires prior to surgery.  At this moment I’m more nervous for that than anything else!  They put you under a bit of anesthesia during the procedure, so I won’t feel it or know what is going on, but I hate the thought of them sticking something down my throat.  Wish me luck!!